Women will be surprised by what the researchers found out about them! (And men will be grateful to know women's secrets.)
In these following pages are 12 valuable research findings about the strongest basic needs of women, plus some interesting news on men. Smart women and men can use this information to greatly increase their understanding of both men and women, relationships, and connections with all people encountered daily.
Here is the researchers' first big discovery: Women's behavior today is driven primarily by ancient DNA from their female ancestors who lived over the past millions of years. Women have been doing some of the same behaviors for millions of years, although it is often unnecessary today.
Women's first and deepest unconscious need is to survive and protect their children, present and future. Amazingly this is true for women of all ages, even after the child bearing years. This survival need is hard-wired in their DNA.
Interestingly, the proven best way for women to survive in the past millions of years was to have close women friends for protection and assistance, especially during child bearing years. Women's ancestors for millions of years had to give birth and raise their children in a hostile world that required help from other women. Men have not been much help to women throughout history. So women are DNA-wired to develop good RELATIONSHIPS with all other women for survival, even though today their world is not as dangerous as in the past couple million years.
Women back in ancient times had to face more dangers than they could cope with by themselves, so having good friendships with as many other women as possible meant a better chance for survival. (Plus giving birth to babies with no help from men meant women friends were essential!)
So in women's DNA evolved a need and the skills for automatically creating close relationships because that was essential for safety and survival. Women unconsciously know every smile, pleasant word, and caring encounter with another woman is an investment in future survival. For women, relationship building is a constant daily high priority goal.
Close relationships have not been important to men for their survival for millions of generations. In fact, men have evolved to be competitive and combative in order to survive, relying primarily on their physical strength and clever tactics to manipulate their physical world and others.
Men and women are driven by different needs in their ancient DNA from their ancestors.
One of women's strongest needs is for building trusting relationships with other women to ensure survival. This need is in all women's DNA from their millions of female ancestors.
© Copyright 2008, revised 2013 by Lawrence Rodrigues, M.S., Director: EastWest Institute for Self-Understanding
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