Most women closely study how men accumulate power and resources, and how generous they are.
Before most women turn on their passion hormones, they want to know the man is going to stick around and that he will share his resources with her and the offspring. This scheme is what worked best for women to make babies and survive during the past several million years. This need is even in women today who are not consciously thinking about marrying and raising children!
The desire for these characteristics is very strong in women's DNA from their female ancestors. The female ancestors who made bad choices in picking men who were poor and stingy didn't survive well for long!
Women's evolved skills have been fine tuned through millions of generations for closely and accurately identifying how caring and generous each man was. Those women in the past who were poor at identifying and selecting good male mates did not have many children who survived. Those women who were good at picking a caring and generous male mate did have many children who carried that beneficial DNA to today's women.
A woman has a natural means of helping her select the man who sticks around. A woman is fertile only approximately 24 hours a month. The guy who is there knocking on her door regularly has the best chance of impregnating her. Incidentally, men's sperm are pretty smart: they will lay and wait for her egg for up to 72 hours!
Men's evolved DNA programming is for frequent sex with any willing healthy female, and with no commitments. That is what worked best for millions of men's male ancestors to pass on their DNA genes.
The men who were the strongest, smartest, and "horniest" lived another day and, if they were lucky, found a woman to have a quick roll in the grass. It undoubtedly was not the men's plan, but this mating process, done for the fun of it, did pass on their genes to many offsprings. For ancient men, a roll in the grass and a full belly were about as good as it could get in a day. (Sounds like a pretty good day even today!)
Women's DNA programmed needs, which come from millions of successful female ancestors, make women seek a man with these characteristics:
© Copyright 2008, revised 2013 by Lawrence Rodrigues, M.S., Director: EastWest Institute for Self-Understanding
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