Most women closely study how men accumulate power and resources, and how generous they are. Even if women are not consciously aware of this interest in men, the desire is still very strong in their DNA from their female ancestors. The women ancestors who made bad choices in picking men who were poor and stingy didn't survive well for long!
Woman want a mate who dedicates himself and his resources totally to ensuring survival and a good life for her and her children. That is in women's DNA programming even though in the past few decades some woman are seeking careers rather than making a family.
Even though women and men may act and dress in modern acceptable ways today, they are all still strongly influenced by their ancient ancestors' desires programmed in their DNA.
Most women's DNA strong drive is for a guaranteed monogamous relationship and long term commitment before turning on the passion hormones. This scheme is what worked best for women to make babies and survive during the past several million years. This need is even in women today who are not consciously thinking about marrying and raising children!
A woman has a natural means of helping her select the man who sticks around. A woman is fertile only approximately 24 hours a month. The guy who is there knocking on her door regularly has the best chance of impregnating her. Incidentally, men's sperm are pretty smart: they will lay and wait for her egg for up to 72 hours!
Men's evolved DNA programming is for frequent sex with any willing healthy female, and with no commitments. That is what worked best for millions of men's male ancestors to pass on their DNA genes.
The men who were the strongest, smartest, and "horniest" lived another day and, if they were lucky, found a woman to have some quick sex. It undoubtedly was not the men's plan but this sexual process, done for the fun of it, did pass on their genes to offspring. For ancient men, some sex and a full belly were about as good as it could get. (That is a pretty good day even today!)
Women's DNA programmed needs, which come from millions of successful female ancestors, make women seek a man with these characteristics:
© Copyright 2008, revised 2013 by Lawrence Rodrigues, M.S., Director: EastWest Institute for Self-Understanding
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