Guys, Understand What She Really Wants
At the top of women's unconscious needs list is safety, security, and survival. These are relatively insured if the woman has high value to her man mate so he will protect and keep her for the long term. Her cherished value to him is her key to survival. So guys, understand that women have a high need to feel like they are valuable. Their DNA tells them it is their key to survival.
A woman's value to a man can be in many forms such as beauty, sexually satisfying, or good services provider in making a home comfortable. Smart women look for what the man's needs and desires are. Her trick is to give him what he wants so she can be valued and therefore retained for the long term and get what she wants and needs.
Women learn at an early age that a good looking woman gets attention from the guys and therefore a wider choice of mate and better survival chances for her and her children. A woman's good looks are undeniably very valuable. So most women spend considerable time and money trying to appear young, healthy, and sexy in order to appeal to men and be the most valued woman. (This is how women compete with each other but on the outside act as friends.)
So Guys be aware of how women will determine if you value them. Women looking for a mate will be keenly tuned to your actions that indicate if you value her more, compared to all the other women.
Women unconsciously analyze and evaluate each man's action from moment to moment to see how he treats her. Women have an extraordinary ability to evaluate the body language, tone of voice, and words used by men. Women watch carefully how sincere, honest, and close their relationship really is with each man. (Guys, beware! She starts keeping score right after you say, "Hello".)
Guys, your challenge is to be attentive and meet her expectations in proving how valuable she is to you. (This is where some guys decide to leave and become a hermit!)
Practical Ways to Make Her Want You
- Show your interest and dedication to her well-being and her high value to you. Most women want to feel they are important and valuable so the men will protect and care for them. If you satisfy her survival needs, her body chemistry will rev up and you will be more attractive to her.
- Prove to her that you really value her and are interested in what she thinks. When you are doing something and she talks to you, do this:
- Stop what you are doing, look in her eyes and listen with interest. (Try to not go glassy-eyed!)
- Really listen to what she has to say. She will know if you are interested by the size of your eye pupils! (Small pupils mean you aren't interested!)
- Encourage her to say more. Let her talk and never jump-in on top of her words. Let her finish, then validate what she said. (Example: "Yes! I agree with what you said. I like that idea.") And most importantly: Don't try to change her view of things to your opinion. Just try to see her world the way she sees it, even if you "know she is wrong".
- Notice if her voice drops at the end of her statement. If her voice does not drop, she has more to say! Keep listening. Only after she is finished should you go back to what you were doing.
(Guys, get this: She is talking to establish a RELATIONSHIP. And she is watching you to see how interested you are in doing that. If you screw up this connection you will be replaced by the first guy who can do a better job of relating!)
- When she has a problem or concern that she shares with you, don't try to change her or "fix her". That implies there is something wrong with her, but not with you. The DNA programming here is this: Women need to express emotions and how they feel about their personal problems. They want to be heard. That is how they build personal, trusted relationships: They share their problems. To the guy it may sound like complaining or a cry for rescue. It is not a request to get fixed!
When women express feelings or a problem, this often comes across to men as something that needs to be fixed. So naturally, men want to jump in and fix everything. Guys, don't try to fix her! Mostly just listen and accept her the way she is. She just wants to be heard and to express her feelings. That is what woman do to build a relationship! Just offer your support and help only if she requests it.
- Guys, don't try to be anything you aren't! Save the status bragging for your buddies. Men have a strong DNA need to raise their status, so they compete, brag, or lie to try to show they are "the best hunter in the tribe". Just be real and let her see that you are an honest and caring guy -- just like every woman wants but has a hard time finding.
- Don't try to disguise your feelings from a woman. Woman can naturally read body language and facial micro-movements without even trying. If you try to hide your real feelings, she will see you as a big fake and not trust anything you say or do. She will not feel safe and secure with you. Her true passion will never be released with you!
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How to Make Her Want YOU!
Make her want you by displaying your traits that show how much you value her. A woman wants to find the man who places high value on her. This implies safety and security for her and her children. Only after a woman's survival needs are satisfied will she be ready to let her passion run freely.
- Women feel emotional attraction toward a man before physical attraction.
- Men feel physical attraction toward a woman before emotional attraction.
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