Men Must Do Dating and Courting
- Dating is the process of two people joining in activities in order to get to know each other better and to get closer physically and emotionally.
- Courting is frequent dating by the man to persuade the woman to be his mate. (Both are on their best behavior during this time and there is no guarantee that "what you see is what you get later!")
- Mating is the mutually agreeable act of a male and female becoming mates. Mating may be just a way of having some fun or surviving better. This arrangement is also often called a "relationship". Relationships often involve having sex for pleasure and bonding, but not to produce offspring.
How We Do Dating and Courting to Find a Mate
Men today usually seek a woman as a mate by courting. Frequent dates lets her know that he is interested in her as a possible mate and/or a sexual partner. The mate-seeking process varies by culture and religion, and there are traditional rules for mating that may or may not be written down.
In most western cultures, courting is done in ways that demonstrates a man's best characteristics so the woman will accept him closer emotionally and physically over time. The courting man's general pattern is to request frequent dates. During this time he will appeal most positively to his selected woman so she will invite him closer emotionally and physically. This generally includes lots of touching and maybe even you-know-what.
In order for him to be accepted by her, he has to take his time and let her see his many good characteristics. The woman makes the ultimate decision to let him get closer, and maybe even let him do that really good-feeling stuff with her.
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Courting Allows the Woman Time to Evaluate the Men and Select the Best One
Women are unconsciously watching for signs of how good of a protector and provider the man is. Most women want to know if the man will make a good provider mate, and will stick around to take care of her and the offspring after the initial fun is over. Most woman need reassurance that the man really likes and values her, and that he is not going to just use her for his own pleasure then abandon her. (GUYS: She is looking for you to demonstrate being stimulating, attentive, protecting, and caring in all matters.)
Fact 2: How the Mating Game Really Works
- Men must court women to find a mate.
If a man does his courting well, he may be able to get his desired woman into a relationship. She makes the final decision to let him in, or not, to her life and bed.
- Women look for the best man available.
Dating and courting gives a woman the opportunity and time to evaluate the men. The woman normally has the chance to select the best one who will help insure the survival of her and her offspring in the future.
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