Some Women Have Changed Since Ancient Times
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pproximately 10,000 years ago humans started living in communities of mixed families. Men were in control from the top ruler down to the family unit.
Women have been always subservient to the men, except in extremely rare cases. Men liked it this way and have resisted and fought hard to not change the system.
Along Comes the "Modern Liberated Woman"
The first Women's Rights Convention was at Seneca Falls in 1848. Historically speaking, that was only "yesterday". It was organized by Lucretia Mott and Elizabeth Cady Stanton after they were denied seating at the World Anti-Slavery Convention in England in 1840. Since then all of the major pushes for expanded women's rights have been tied closely to other major rights movements, such as anti-slavery in the 1800's and the Viet Nam anti-war protests in the 1960's and 70's. (Burning their bras probably was a man's idea!)
There have been some gains made by women in the past decades that are showing up today on the dating scene.
With women's newly gained freedoms in some countries, coupled with economic gains, many woman need not depend on men for survival. Some modern women have become independent and have changed the rules for finding a mate. Some women are even going it alone or with another woman. Men dealing with these women have to operate in a whole new way!
Smart Modern Women Do Not Believe All Men's Lies
Many men tell women lies because it often gets men what they want. Most men learn early what women want to hear, so men repeat the well-selected phrases at the most appropriate times. Women throughout history probably have always known when men were lying, but to insure continued protection the women acted like they believed the men. However, the independent modern woman does not have to play that game anymore.
Below are timeless examples of men's lies to women:
- Man's lie: "You are very beautiful."
What he means: "You stimulate me and I want to have sex with you."
- Man's lie: "I love you."
What he means: "I lust you. I want you to drop your guard and let me have all your "sweet treats."
- Man's lie: "I really want to settle down."
What he means: "I'm tired of chasing after women to get sex. I want you to be there waiting for me anytime I want it."
- Man's lie: "I really want to be close to you."
What he means: "I really want to be close to you so I can get sex whenever I want it."
- Man's lie: "I'll call you."
What he means: "I'll call you when I want your "goodies" again."
- Man's lie: "You are the only one."
What he means: "You are the only one at this minute."
- Man's lie: "I've been celibate since we broke up."
What he means: "I can't find a woman to give me sex."
- Man's lie: "It's not just the sex I want, it's being close to you."
What he means: "It is the sex I want, so I want you to be close so I can get more whenever I want it."
The list could go on and on! In most cases, men lie to raise their status or to get sex. Of course some women lie to men to get more of what they want, too! In most cases, women lie to strengthen a relationship or to make a person feel good. Below are some of women's lies to men:
"I'm not very experienced, you'll have to teach me how."
"That was really good. The best I ever had."
"It doesn't matter that I never reached mine."
"I'm OK, I just want you to feel good."
"I really like doing that to you."
"That was awesome, I never had better."
"You're all the man I'll ever need."
"I'll never want anyone else."
"You're so big!"
Modern Women Can Read Men Like Books
Here are things the modern woman will watch for in a guy when he is talking to her.
- Are his opening lines only about him, his job, and his high status?
- Is he offering "bait" that probably he can't deliver?
- Is he trying to compete and show dominance?
- Is his flattery overdone or outrageous?
- Is he consistent with his story?
- What type "picture" is he drawing of himself?
- How much of his real feelings is he willing to reveal?
- How hard does he try to hide his weaknesses and vulnerabilities?
Guys, take notes! Modern women are much smarter than men about relationships and interpersonal communications. They can read your body language ahead of your words. Your every breath, movement, and sound will give her information about what is going on inside you. Women have built in computers with thousands of years of data from their ancestors about what men want and how they operate. So in the first four minutes of your talking to her, she will collect enough data to accurately categorize you forever. From here on, she is amusingly watching you do your "act" and "mating dance". This is one of women's most satisfying sports! When you see women together in a corner laughing, they are probably comparing stories about the goofy things guys did to try to impress them. (If they look at you and all laugh -- leave immediately!)
Is There Hope for Men Today?
The main point here is that the dating and mating game involves a lot of manipulation by both partners to get what they want. The modern woman is a new player who has come on the recent scene in our culture. She is educated and uses her "new brain" frontal lobes to think logically and will not be easily fooled by the "ancient male hunter" lies.
Summary of Fact 10:
Modern liberated woman have rejected many of the ancient dating and mating rituals and live by new rules. Modern man should be more direct and clear about his desire for sex and what type of a relationship he wants. Communication and negotiation are modern tools modern women and men can both use to get what they each want without getting involved in all the ancient indirect and devious "games".
Recommended Books.
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-- What Women Want Next by Susan Maushart.
-- What Does a Woman Want? by Serge Andre.
-- What Women Want in Bed by Dr. Ava Cadell.
-- Three Great Novels- What A Woman Wants: "A Sense Of Belonging", "Dancing In The Dark", "Some Kind Of Hero" by Donna Hay.
-- What Women Want to Know About Men: What Men Need to Know About Themselves by Nick Durso.
-- What Women Want from Work by Ruth Woodfield.
-- What Women Want: What Every Man Needs to Know About Sex, Romance, Passion, and Pleasure by Laurence Roy Stains.
-- What Women Want: The Life You Crave and How God Satisfies by Lisa T. Bergren
-- What a Woman Wants by Brenda Jackson.
-- What Women Want--What Men Want: Why the Sexes Still See Love and Commitment So Differently by John Marshall Townsend.
-- What Does a Woman Want?: Reading and Sexual Difference by Shoshana Felman.
-- The Bridesmaid's Reward (What Women Want !) by Liz Fielding.
-- What Do Women Want? by Luise Eichenbaum.
-- The Ultimate Guide on Dating and Relationships.
-- Dating For Women Over 40.
-- How to Meet Women and Get Dates.
-- Dating Foreign Women.
-- What Do Women Want from Men?
-- What Women Want: What Men Need to Know.
-- Seduce Me! What Women Really Want.
-- Female Body Language Secrets.
-- Male Body Language That Attracts Women.
-- Female Body Language That Attracts Men.
-- What Do Women Want from Men?
-- What Women Want Men to Know.
-- With This Baby (What Women Want!)
-- What Do Women REALLY Want? Chocolate!
-- The truth about what women want in men.
-- What Women Want Men to Know: The Ultimate Book about Love, Sex, and Relationships for You--and the Man You Love.
-- What Women Want.
-- The Secret of Relationships: Your Complete Personology Guide to Any Relationship with Anyone.
-- The Forbidden Marriage: What Women Want!
-- What Women Want-What Men Want.
-- Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship.
-- What Women Want Next.
-- WHAT WOMEN WANT-WHAT MEN WANT: WHY THE SEXES SEE LOVE AND COMMITMENT SO DIFFERENTLY.
-- What Women Want Most.
-- What Women Want: the Silver Lining of Relationships.
-- Why Women Want What They Can't Have: Why So Many Relationships Fail.
-- What Women Really Want, What Women Really Need.
-- The Girls' Guide to Guys: Straight Talk for Teens on Flirting, Dating, Breaking Up, Making Up & Finding True Love.
-- What Most Women Want / What Few Women Find.
-- What Do Women Want?
-- Men Are From Cyberspace: The Single Woman's Guide To Flirting, Dating, & Finding Love.
-- Satisfaction Guaranteed: What Women Really Want in Bed.
-- What Women Really Want: And How They Can Get It.
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