There have been some gains made by women in the past decades that are showing up today on the dating scene. With women's newly gained freedoms in some countries, coupled with economic gains, many woman need not depend on men for survival. Some modern women have become independent and have changed the rules for finding a mate. Some women are even going it alone or with another woman. Men dealing with these women have to operate in a whole new way!
Approximately 10,000 years ago humans started living in communities of mixed families. Men were in control from the top ruler down to the family unit. Women have been always subservient to the men, except in extremely rare cases. Men liked it this way and have resisted and fought hard to not change the male dominated systems.
Men have evolved some tactics they think work well with most women. For both men and women there are a lot of hidden true feelings and needs that go unmet. Often both are so involved with playing the game that it is stressful and unsatisfying, and they merely coexist together for convenience.
Most men learn early what they think women want to hear, so men repeat the well-selected phrases at the most appropriate times. Women throughout history probably have always known when men were lying, but to insure continued protection the women acted like they believed the men - or at least ignored them. However, the independent modern woman does not have to play that game anymore.
Below are timeless examples of men's lies to many modern women who won't be fooled:
Research shows that in most cases men lie for two reasons: To get sex or to raise their status with an untrue brag. Of course some women lie to men to get more of what they want, too! In most cases, women lie to strengthen a relationship or to make a person feel good. Below are some of women's lies to men. Men love to hear these type comments and accept them as true because that is what they want to hear!
Here are things the modern woman will watch for in a guy when he is talking to her. (Guys, take notes!)
Guys, take notes! Modern women are much smarter than most men about relationships and interpersonal communications. They can read your body language ahead of your words. Your every breath, movement, and sound will give her information about what is going on inside you. Women have built-in computers with thousands of years of data from their ancestors about what men want and how they operate.
So guys, in the first four minutes of your talking to her, she will collect enough data to accurately categorize you forever. From then on, she is amusingly watching you do your "act" and "mating dance". This is one of women's most amusing secret sports!
The dating and mating game frequently involves a lot of manipulation by both partners to get what they want.
The modern woman is wise and will not be easily fooled by the "ancient male hunter" trying to get what he wants from her.
© Copyright 2008, revised 2013 by Lawrence Rodrigues, M.S., Director: EastWest Institute for Self-Understanding
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